Good morning everyone. I hope you’re all doing well. Today I’m going to be giving you all some tips when it comes to handling your self care.
Completely off topic, but my husband got me a new keyboard since I’ve been having issues with my laptop one and currently I’m really happy with this one! I know that doesn’t really mean anything to anyone other than me, but it was something I wanted to share.
To preface this post, I want to remind you all that everyone is different. Just because these tips work for me, that doesn’t mean they are 100% going to work for you. Everyone copes differently with the things going on in their daily life.
Use this list as a guide. If something doesn’t work for you, then take a look at why it didn’t work. If it was just one portion of the thing, then change that. If the whole thing didn’t work, then just find something else. Maybe even try the opposite thing.
I think this is a very interesting post for me to be writing right now specifically because I had such a rough night last night. I couldn’t sleep and have been struggling to do so for a couple weeks now. So I’m going to definitely be spending today working on a lot of these.
1. Take a Bath/Shower and Pamper Yourself
So this is a pretty straightforward one in the sense that a lot of people correlate taking baths with relaxing. For me, if I’m especially stressing out or feeling anxious, all I have to do is stand in a hot shower and I immediately start feeling better. Then, because we all know the best thoughts happen in the shower, I am able to come up with a plan to tackle the issues I’m having.
Showers are when I feel the most creative and the most motivated. The issue I seem to have is keeping that motivation outside of the shower.
But this is going the extra step. Do this at least once a week. Do a face mask, hair mask, and take a nice hot bath/shower. Shave, wash your hair, etc. Do the pampering that may suck while doing it but is fairly mindless and you’ll feel amazing afterward. Clean hair, clean body, SHAVEN! It’s something that I’m probably going to do after I finish writing this.
2. Plan of Action
So, another thing that really helps me every day is to have a plan. A lot of the reason I’ve been such a mess is because I don’t have a plan of action when it comes to tackling everything I need to do. I haven’t been writing to do lists and outside of planning what blog posts I’m going to be having going up, I don’t really have anything figured out. It causes me to not have any motivation and thus I don’t do anything with my day.
Having that plan takes off the stress of trying to figure out what I need to do and how I need to do it to get everything done that I need to get done. So I definitely need to get back into the habit of making my to do lists and that will help me to get myself back on track.
Maybe I’ll do a blog/video series of me trying to get my crap together. If you want to see that, let me know.
3. Complete Something
If you’re a part of the bookish community here online (which the likelihood of that is high since I’m a book blog), then you probably know a little something about a reading slump. I feel like the main idea and best way to get out of a reading slump is to finish a book. It’s always a sign that you’re heading in the right direction and after finishing a book, you feel more motivated to keep that going.
So the same goes for when you’re feeling unmotivated in life. If you’re in need of some self love and self care, finish something. Do a puzzle, do the dishes, make your bed. Anything that makes you feel like you accomplished something. That’s why a lot of people tell you to always make your bed. You’re starting the day finishing something.
This is something that may just be for me. Normally the times that I need the most self care are the times that I am not being as productive as I’d like. I know that seems like I think that I need to be busy all the time or super productive to be happy with myself. That’s partially true, but I also am very extreme in both senses. I haven’t been able to find the balance between being both productive and not. Generally I’m either extremely productive or I’m extremely not and lazy.
Accomplishing something is always a feeling that gets me motivated to do more. So that’s why I’m writing this blog post so early compared to when I have been (you all aren’t seeing this, but it’s definitely making me feel a lot better).
4. Take a Break. Read a book, watch TV, scroll through social media.
Everyone takes breaks differently at different times. My breaks from my full time job are spent reading. But my breaks at home are watching TV or scrolling through social media. Reading is part of my “job” and is my passion. I count running this blog as a job because it is.
But that doesn’t mean I don’t love it. People tend to correlate “job” with “not fun” and that’s certainly not the case here. I love doing this and I also count it as a job. I don’t make money from it (yet, I have ads but they don’t produce much revenue), but it is what takes up a lot of my day and something I put a lot of work into. And part of running this blog is reading.
While reading is inherently a fun, break-like thing to do, I tend to need a break from it at home sometimes. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that I’m not loving what I’m doing, but everyone needs a break sometimes even from things they love doing.
5. Be Kind to Yourself and Others
The ultimate “tip” that I have is to be kind to yourself. This is the one I struggle with the most. I’m going to talk about last night a bit and tell you all why I had to include this one on this list.
Last night, as I said, I couldn’t sleep. I was having quite a bit of anxiety and being extra paranoid. It’s been happening a lot more recently, but that’s not what I want to focus on. What I do want to focus on was at one point during the night, I decided to look for some jobs.
I hopped online, got on a job hunting website, and started looking for any and all remote jobs. I found a few that sounded interesting so I looked more into them, looked at the job requirements and what I’d be doing at the job. That’s where I fell apart. I was looking at all the requirements and I was realizing all the things I’m bad at. All the things that I should have worked on when I was younger. All the things I have done wrong up to this point.
Now, I don’t want you in the comments trying to say that I’m good at things, blah blah blah. This is something I need to work on. There are many things that I’m just not good at and no amount of passion is going to change that. To be honest, I think I know a reason for why I’m not good at some of these things, but I’m just afraid to look more into it and I’m afraid of what that could mean for my future.
But that being said, the reason I shared this is because it’s something that wouldn’t be happening if I were more kind to myself. I wouldn’t be telling my husband that I just didn’t want to be me anymore. So even just telling yourself one good thing that you like about yourself, that could make a world of difference.
So these weren’t necessarily tips like “hey, use these hacks to make life easier.” They were more “tips you should keep in mind and things you should do often so that you can have a constant feeling of self care/love and things to do when you aren’t feeling good about yourself.”
On that note, I’m going to sign off and I hope you all enjoyed this post and take some of these “tips” into your life. Is that even a proper sentence? Incorporate some of these tips into your life. That’s better.
Thank you all so much for joining me and make sure you comment down below with any tips you have or how you practice self care. Also let me know some of your favorite motivational/lifestyle YouTubers and bloggers. I want to watch and read more lifestyle stuff so let me know so I can check them out!
I’ll see you all very soon with the next post.